Breaking Free From Abuse
Don’t keep it a secret.
“I’m only as sick as my secrets.”
“Revealing my feeling is the beginning of healing.”
If you’ve been abused, as a child, or as a teenager, or as an adult, it is not your fault!
Psalm 39:1-4 (NAS) 1I said, “I will guard my ways that I may not sin with my tongue; I will guard my mouth as with a muzzle while the wicked are in my presence.” 2I was mute and silent, I refrained even from good, and my sorrow grew worse. 3My heart was hot within me, while I was musing the fire burned; then I spoke with my tongue: 4“LORD, make me to know my end and what is the extent of my days; let me know how transient I am.”
Name the abuse.
Types of emotional abuse:
Don’t minimize it or rationalize it.
Get them, or you, to a safe place, if necessary.
Don’t confront an abuser by yourself.
Begin the healing process.
Job 11:13-17 (NAS) 13“If you would direct your heart right and spread out your hand to Him, 14if iniquity is in your hand, put it far away, and do not let wickedness dwell in your tents; 15then, indeed, you could lift up your face without moral defect, and you would be steadfast and not fear. 16For you would forget your trouble, as waters that have passed by, you would remember it. 17Your life would be brighter than noonday; darkness would be like the morning.”
“First, direct your heart right.”
“You need to spread out your hand to God.”
“Put the iniquity and the wickedness far away from you.”
“Your troubles will fade and you will remember them no more.”
Let God settle the score.
I Peter 3:9 (NLT) Don’t repay evil for evil. Don’t retaliate with insults when people insult you. Instead, pay them back with a blessing. That is what God has called you to do, and he will bless you for it.
Abuse is contagious.