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3 Basic Rules

Three Basic Family Rules

Rules are important in family life. They clarify expectations and provide opportunities for parents to teach about values. Some parents, however, rely too heavily on rules. They develop lists and family life boils down to a bunch of do's and don'ts.

Remember that rules tend to focus on behavior and may miss the heart. But, if you use rules wisely and talk often about why the rules are helpful, you can teach your children a great deal about the values you want to pass on. As you begin making rules for young children, we would suggest three simple rules:

Obey
Show Respect
Be Kind

Almost any infraction in family life can fall under one of these three. Having just a few rules is especially good for young children. These three become the basis for most other rules as children get older. Each of them represents an important character quality.

These rules are simple and introduce young children to the fact that certain guidelines dictate what's expected in family life. Talk about them often as you teach and discipline your children. This will help to instill a sense of character even at a young age.

This parenting tip is taken from the book, Home Improvement: Eight Tools for Effective Parenting,

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This begs the question, can you force your kids to obey, show respect and be kind? I realize it has to be something they want to do, but what if they don't?

We are struggling with a couple of teenagers who are good at any one of the three at any given time, but never all three all the time. It seems to only be possible when something needs to be in their favor.

I'm finding that teens can be the most self-centered creatures on the planet, moreso than even newborns at times.

At what point does grace have to stop and the hammer have to come down? How big a hammer? Can grace and hammer be used together? These are the big questions of the age, I don't expect an answer here, just asking out-loud.

posted by milkmood on February 1, 2008

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