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It's the Hard Part of Being a Parent

Don't let a bad attitude dissuade you from what's best for your child. As parents, we often want to make our children happy. We want them to feel good and have fun, but sometimes they need to experience the pain of their wrong choices. Allowing them to experience the discomfort of discipline can be a very loving thing to do.

So, when you need to discipline your child, and that child responds poorly, remember that discipline is not intended to be fun. Although you want to look for creative ways to teach and make learning a joy, sometimes a child needs to experience a negative consequence to learn a lesson. Expect some resistance, but persevere because you know that what you're doing is best for your child. The discipline is a valuable part of your child's growth. There'll be other times to make your child happy.

When your children are having a hard time accepting correction, remember that their immediate response is not an indication of the effectiveness of the discipline. You are disciplining for long-term benefit. This truth can help you persevere. It can be quite freeing when parents recognize that discipline is unpleasant and that children often won't respond with gratefulness. Sometimes parenting isn't pleasant but discipline is a necessary part of the job.

Remember that Hebrews 12:11 says, "No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it."

This tip was taken from the tape series, Home Improvement: Eight Tools for Effective Parenting, by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.